Dear divorced Christian, if you feel like you are a complete failure just because you made the wrong decision in life, doesn’t mean God has given up on you. These 3 truths about divorce will help you appreciate your situation a little better, and hopefully you can draw some life-changing decisions from them.
1. The Ability To Remarry
There is a lot of controversy that many scholars have caused on this subject. At the time when God gave the inspired scripture to its authors, people were living in a totally different time than we are now. All we have now is the interpretations on how to view such scriptures. There are people who refuse to remarry in order to save themselves from a life full of adultery and risking their soul to eternal damnation. No matter what a person takes from an interpretation – it’s still a human interpretation of divine teachings. In the end, your decision to remarry is between you and God. This decision should be made when you and your future spouse are ready to heal and move on from your previous marriage, and dedicate both your lives to the Lord. People who do choose to remarry shouldn’t have a negative stigma labeled onto them. Lets reflect on the lineage of Christ recorded in Matthew 1. In it we find that there were 3 women who remarried in the direct lineage of our Savior. How then can we judge those who choose to remarry?
2. Understand That God Hates Divorce.
In truth, divorce is a ugly and hateful thing. If you think about it, it is the epitome of what we don’t want in life. It is a symbol of failure, of sorrow and it is one the complete destruction of a family. In short, God hates divorce. It is the actions that hurt one another that leads up to divorce, so it makes perfect sense that God also does not tolerate anything that would eventually lead up to divorce.
There are six things the LORD hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community (Proverbs 6:16-19).
It is often that those sins will somehow impact a marriage in a negative way. I have drawn a personal conclusion as to why God hates divorce. The pain and suffering it causes to children is non-reparable. You cannot reverse the damage done to the family.
3. God Is Our Redeemer.
Even when we don’t feel him near us, he’s there. Even in our darkest hour, he is constantly watching and looking over us. Just like a prodigal son, we come to his waters in order to cleanse ourselves from the impurities this world has smeared us with.
Don’t ever forget that even after divorce, God will always hold a special place in His heart for you. Remember to always seek God first and everything else comes second.
For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.- Ephesians 2:10