If God forgives us for our sins, shouldn’t we do the same to those that have done us wrong?
1. Acknowledge Your Pain
Admitting that someone has harmed you in one way or another, is sometimes difficult to come by, since we don’t want to admit our vulnerability, since it may hurt our ego. However, without acknowledging your inner emotions, you’ll never be able to be made whole, once again. If you find yourself in tears or holding bitterness at the thought of the person that did you harm, you need to learn to let it go . . . hard as it may be.
2. Ponder Through Your Grief
Once you acknowledge that you are indeed hurt, you need to come to terms as to why you are hurting, whether or not you think that it is legitimate to do so. Admitting your varying emotions about what occurred, or how you were wronged, and sharing them with a Christian friend or jotting them down on paper, will start the healing process.
3. Place Yourself In The Offender’s Shoes
Did you ever wrong a loved one and regret that you did? Were you extended forgiveness or was it withheld from you? In either case . . . how did it cause you to feel? Jesus said in Luke 6:31 (KJV): And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.
4. God Has Forgiven You
We can acknowledge that God has forgiven us on many occasions. Recalling His forgiveness, even when we as humans, truly don’t feel worthy of it, will help us to do the same. Whether or not your offender has asked for forgiveness or is even willing to accept it—you need to do it, regardless. It’s the Christian thing to do, but it will also bring you inner peace when you do.
5. God Commands Us To Forgive
Jesus always stressed the significance of forgiveness, through prayer. He said in Luke 17:4 (KJV): And if he trespasses against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.
6. Free Yourself From The Pain
Once you’ve done the aforementioned, please withdraw yourself from the hurt. Don’t ever look back, because it’ll only bring those feeling to the surface, once again. Let it go. When we repent, the Bible says in Micah 7:19 (KJV), that: He will turn again, he will have compassion upon us; he will subdue our iniquities, and thou wilt cast all their sins into the depths of the sea. Shouldn’t we do the same? If you truly find yourself having difficulty forgiving, go to God in prayer, earnestly—asking him to soften your heart, over and over again, until you can honestly say that the pain is forever gone, into the sea of forgetfulness. When memories of your relationship with the perpetrator come to mind, and you no longer feel the hurt, then you’ll know that you have been set free!
7. Pray For Those That Hurt You
Regardless of what act was bestowed upon you, sincerely praying for the offender, will not only bring you closer to God, but it will release you from any feelings that may be hidden deep within your soul. It isn’t God’s will for any to perish, so praying that they too come to repentance, will set them as free as you already are! Isn’t that what a true Christian, really is?
Article Inspired by Christianity Today