Proverbs 15:23

Congenial conversation—what a pleasure! The right word at the right time—beautiful!

Conversation seems to be a lost art. To give teenagers the desire to have a conversation with God, it needs to be modeled first in the home as safe and inviting. How often do we take the time to just chat casually with our sons and daughters? Do we let them lead the conversation and talk about things that matter to them? Do they feel secure in asking questions and know that the conversation is because they are valued?

Many teens are not drawn to God because they feel that as a “Father,” he is just like the earthly parent that will just barge in and start giving a lecture or worse, wrath. It is important to represent Jesus fairly and accurately in our interactions and not force our demands on our children. Of course, healthy boundaries are essential and obedience is critical, so in the moments of harmony, we can take the opportunity to connect lovingly.

These verses from the Message Bible translation could very easily apply to teenagers!

Matthew 10:12-15

When you knock on a door, be courteous in your greeting. If they welcome you, be gentle in your conversation. If they don’t welcome you, quietly withdraw. Don’t make a scene.

Teenagers need their space; they also need a loving parent to be there to talk through the challenges in life and know that they matter. Children often drift away from their parents during the teenage years. Though it is a normal part of development, there is no better time to stay connected and invite them into casual conversation when they are open.

Luke 10:38-40

As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made.

We have no idea what Jesus was saying to Mary in this verse but what we do know is that she wanted to hear every word. Our teens need to hear what we have to say and that they matter enough that we are willing to focus on the conversation and be fully present.

Teaching teens how to engage in healthy conversation is a vital social skill and will help them know when to speak and when to listen in courtship, Christian dating and a future marriage relationship.

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