Anger may be justifiable, but sin is not!
As Christians, we should be the example to others around us. Whether you are told or not, people do watch how you behave: what you do and don’t do; what you say; how you respond; where you go and don’t go . . . well, the list is endless.
How would you say you comport yourself, at all times—even when no one is watching? Certainly, we should always act reasonably—especially when no one is around. Why? Because if you show restraint when it’s just you and God, then you will surely express it when others are about. Ultimately, isn’t God the one that we should please? If others don’t see our sin, but God does, isn’t it meaningless, in the long scheme of things?
So, what should you do when you get angry? Do you know that there are moments where anger is justifiable? Jesus got angry.
Jesus had entered into a synagogue where a man had a withered hand; but the Pharisees had followed him in, with the expectation that they might accuse him of healing on the sabbath day, and therefore have him destroyed.
Mark 3:5 (KJV)
5 And when he had looked round about on them with anger, being grieved for the hardness of their hearts, he saith unto the man, Stretch forth thine hand. And he stretched it out: and his hand was restored whole as the other.
Jesus was angered and deeply afflicted because of the coldness of their hearts. He had a right to be, for His intent was to simply reach out to a man that needed to be made whole. Who would oppose to such a stirring, loving action? Do you suppose that if these same accusers needed a miracle on the Sabbath, that they would not have sought it? Of course, they would have. They were being hypocritical because they wanted to ruin Jesus.
There are other examples in the Bible, where Jesus was justifiably angry, as well as many occasions in the Old Testament where God and others were.
Anger is a natural reaction in times where the soul is deeply grieved, for things that may have never before been fathomed. To have that emotion, in and of itself isn’t sinful, but the way that you react to revelations or moments, can be.
Do you give your loved one the silent treatment? Do you remind them of a shortcoming that should have been long forgotten? Do you scream? Do you get violent? Do you leave your home for hours or days at a time? Do you purposely say hurtful words, simply because you too are hurting? Do you let the whole world know what your loved one did to you?
Anger may be justifiable, but your reaction may not be, in fact, it may be sinful.
The Bible teaches that:
Ephesians 4:26 (KJV)
26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
27 Neither give place to the devil.
So, the scriptures warn us that in our anger, we should not sin, setting a time frame to that anger, because it could give rise to the wiles of the enemy of our soul. Do you realize that if you go to bed angry, that you’ve given Satan additional opportunity to work on your thoughts and emotions? Nothing good could possibly result in your prolonged wrath. You are simply being stubborn and you need to offer forgiveness to your loved one, even if an apology has not been extended.
Proverbs 15:1 (KJV)
1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Do you realize that you have the power to halt the escalation of an argument? As hurt or as angry as you may be, walk away, if you feel that your emotions might erupt. Even if you don’t say anything wrong, the mere elevation of your tone, can escalate things. Yes, you may want to be heard, but in the moment of a heated discussion, your wants or needs are not going to be recognized, until both parties are at a neutral state, anyway.
Proverbs 16:32 (KJV)
32 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.
Take control of your emotions. Rein them in. You, with God’s help, can do anything! If you find it extremely difficult to hold your tongue, turn around and walk away; but remember to not allow the day to come to its conclusion. The key to meaningful and long term relationships is to make amends as swiftly as possible!
Proverbs 19:11 (KJV)
11 The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.
When you allow your anger to subside or to not come to surface, you will be setting an example to those around you. They will see that there is something different about you, which may, God willing, lead them to Christ!
James 1:19 (KJV)
19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
Listen, and don’t react without thought. Speak in a loving and Christian tone, and your anger will, undoubtedly subside!
If there’s anything that you should take from this Bible study, please remember to NOT let the sun go down before reconciling with your loved one. Whatever caused you to become angry, can be resolved through honest communication. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable, because if you withhold your true emotions, your loved one will never really, truly understand your wants, needs . . . your hurts.
You can absolutely overcome any hardships that come your way . . . any! Don’t do anything without God, because if you do, things will not flourish into their full potential!