Perhaps you’ve heard stories in the news about how a husband or a wife is murdered by their own spouse. You might even know someone who is in an abusive relationship, or God forbid that you are trapped in a situation such as that. Whatever the case may be, God’s stance on the matter has remained the same since he first told his nation in Ephesians 5:28, 29:
“In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself, 29 for no man ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cherishes it, just as the Christ does the congregation,”
While domestic abuse happens to both sexes, it is more commonly found when the man is the aggressor, and the woman is the victim. You may have asked this question to yourself before: “Why don’t they just leave??”
You must understand that such circumstances are extremely delicate, and sometimes just leaving is not an easy thing to do. The most common reason for staying in an abusive relationship is that the victim fears that the abuse will intensify if they leave. Some husbands threaten to harm or even kill their wife if they try to escape. Then some fear that their friends or relatives will run the same danger. There is literally a myriad of reasons as to why victims have no choice but to stay:
- They put the needs of their children first. They don’t want their children to grow up in a broken home.
- They cannot support themselves or their children financially.
- They have hope that the abuse will stop.
Here Are Bible Principles To Follow For A Healthy Relationship
- You MUST treat your wife with honor and respect.
—1 Peter 3:7.
- Love your wife as your own body.
—Ephesians 5:28, 29.
- Work together so that your love keeps growing.
- Do not abuse each other with speech.
—Ephesians 4:29, 31.
- Have self-control.
- Self-respect means self-control.
- Your actions will have consequences.
- Learn to walk away from hostile situations.
- Hate what God hates- Violent behavior.
- Your spouse is not an inferior being, but rather a capable partner.
—Genesis 1:31; 2:18.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.- 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7