Missy Robertson From Duck Dynasty Tells Her Son That He “Cant Come Home”
Duck Dynasty’s Missy Robertson has been married to her husband Jase for 25 years now, and in all that time she says she’s learned the in’s and out’s of marriage. Recently, the mother of three has posted a blog that accounted of a time when she was a new bride. has been married to her husband Jase for over 25 years—and in that time, she says, she’s learned
Right before she married to Jase back in 1990, Missy says that her father stopped her to have a serious conversation with her, one that impacted her marriage forever.
…he [my dad] stopped me in the hallway of our house one day during that festive week, took me by the shoulders, faced me head on and stated, “Missy, I need to tell you something very important”, it definitely got my attention. He looked me dead in the eyes and said, “When you get married on Friday, you can’t come home.”
What? Where in the world did this come from? Maybe I didn’t hear him correctly. So, I asked him to clarify.
Again, he said, “You are not welcome to come back to this house to live after Friday night.”
Missy didn’t quite fully understand her father’s strong words that day, but as she and her husband progressed through their marriage, the words became more and more clearer. According to her, there were times in her marriage when she’d cry endlessly in her bed, wishing that she could come back running home. She longed to rid herself of all responsibilities and struggles that come naturally in a marriage. “I would remember what my dad told me, and I knew I had to go talk to Jase about it.”
Missy credits her dad’s words for helping her stay committed to her marriage as a young bride. This is why she recently shared them with her son Reed and his fiancée, Brighton. Her son Reed is engaged to be married, she had a similar conversation with him that her loving father had with her in the week of her own wedding.
Her dad’s pre-marital verbal ‘smackdown’ smacked some sense into her as she was becoming more and more wiser in her marriage. Unlike most mentalities of marriage today, God designed marriage to be a one-time thing. She had no option of running home to mommy and daddy to fix everything, she had to stick it out with Jase. According to Genesis 2:24, God gives clear instructions for the process of marriage:
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”
So, not only did I tell them my memory of that awkward conversation I had with my dad all those years ago, I also took the opportunity to pass down the same information to Reed. I left them with these endearing words:
“Reed, I love you with all my heart, but once you say ‘I do’ this fall, you can’t come home. And Brighton, you’re stuck with him.”
Indeed, if you want to have a good foundation in your marriage, you MUST follow God’s advice!