If you focus on God and family, instead of life’s responsibilities, you will live a more fulfilled life!
Unfortunately, we are always “focused” on doing this and that; going here and there . . . it’s never ending, from the time that we roll out of bed, until the time we plop into bed—from exhaustion—at the end of the day. When we are too busy with the daily responsibilities of life, we stray from the things that truly, really matter: God and family! Sometimes, just doing one thing at a time can be distracting, let alone when multi-tasking.
In this day of social media and wireless phones, it seems that we have less time for our loved ones, let alone God. I’ve seen it with my family. I probably spend about 1 hour a day on social media, in my private life. I am a photographer, so sometimes I do take a couple of hours to post/respond on various social media. Anyway, recently I was visiting my sister and her family. We all paused for a moment and realized that we were all on our cell phones. All 6 of us! It was funny at the moment, but quite sad, simultaneously. We are so fixated on things that, in the long run, will only take us from having meaningful relationships.
If you were to look back on your day, would you say that you truly redeemed your time? Was there anything that perhaps you could have done without, and instead, focus on something more significant?
Every morning, you make breakfast for your spouse and children, because you love them and want them to have a nutritious meal, before heading out. You dress your children if they are still too young to do it themselves, because you want to. You drive them to school, 5 days a week. You return home and clean the messy kitchen because you ran out of time, prior to dropping your kids off. You do the gardening; dust; sweep; mop; vacuum; clean the toilet; do the laundry; press the clothes; make lunch; run errands; pay the bills; pick up the kids from school; help them with their homework; make dinner; clean up; put them to bed; and start all over the following day. Well, that’s if you were NOT distracted, because when you are, you are pulled one way and another—sometimes leaving things undone, or partially completed.
When someone calls you for a favor, you aren’t the type to ever deny them. You’ll do anything and everything for anyone . . . always. So, you leave your duties at home, for a later time. That hobby that you picked up last week, will have to wait. Yes, it isn’t your only “hobby”: so you have that knitted scarf, that isn’t quite completed; the beautiful feminine, fabric bag that you’re constructing, where you’ll add the gorgeous, humongous, leather rosette from you favorite bag that became too old, way too soon; the skirt that you’re converting out of denim pants that you purchased for $5; the painting of the snowy egret is almost there . . . almost; your photography website is somewhat coming along . . .
Did you make ANY time for yourself? Well, yes. You got on social media, commented here and there; read a few pages of the different e-books that you’re reading . . . somewhat . . . simultaneously; you called your best friend, whom you’ve been intending to communicate with for the last 6 months; you finally responded to the friends that sent you messages on various social media; so, yes, you made some time for yourself; but did you REALLY make time for yourself? Did you make time for your spouse? Did you make time for your children? Did you make time as a family? Did you make time for God?
Do you see? When we are pulled in every direction, we get so caught up in the moment, that we don’t recognize that we are living in a state of chaos that needs to be reined in. We need to bring a peace into our life that can only be accomplished with God’s help. He truly has a plan for us, and it’s not for us to be overwhelmed by the responsibilities of life. Of course, He wants each and every one of us to do our share of life’s duties. Whether we are single; divorced; are a single parent; a stay-at-home mom or dad; a child; a student; work outside of our home; work from our home . . . whatever our status, gender or occupation—Jesus HAS a plan for us and it’s to live a fulfilled life, that will ONLY be attained with Him and through Him!
Jesus said, in Matthew 6:25-34 (KJV):
25 Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?
26 Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?
27 Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature?
28 And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:
29 And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.
30 Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?
31 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
32 (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.
33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
34 Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.
What is Jesus saying? He is saying that He WILL take care of you, as He does ALL things. YOU are much greater than the fowls of the air, and the lilies and the grass of the field; yet he supplies their need; so He too will supply yours! He is not saying to stay home, be idle and things will rightly fall into place; BUT He is saying to NOT worry; to relax; to live a more abundant life!
Proverbs 31:10-31 (KJV)
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
So, we do need to take care of our family and the duties of our household. Yet, there is something that is even more pressing and of more value in life.
38 Now it came to pass, as they went, that he entered into a certain village: and a certain woman named Martha received him into her house.
39 And she had a sister called Mary, which also sat at Jesus’ feet, and heard his word.
40 But Martha was cumbered about much serving, and came to him, and said, Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me to serve alone? bid her therefore that she help me.
41 And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things:
42 But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.
You see, Martha was doing what most of us would most likely do, if we had a guest in our home. We would tend to them and be as hospitable as we could possibly be. Would we not? She was either overwhelmed, or she felt that it was not courteous of her sister, Mary, to simply be sitting at Jesus’ feet. She too wanted to stop and listen, but couldn’t, because there was something more pressing at the moment . . . or so she thought. Yet, Jesus said that Mary WAS in fact doing what she should. Mary HAD chosen to do the right thing. To be in Jesus’ presence, listening to His Words, was invaluable! Mary had her priorities in order! Do we?
Proverbs 3:5-6 (KJV)
5 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
So what do we need to do, in order to maintain balance with life’s responsibilities, while cultivating a relationship with God?
We need to keep God as our priority in life. If He is the foundation of our family structure, all things will naturally fall into place. Your relationship with Him will flourish, and in turn, so will all your relations.
Be sure that He is the first one that you communicate with in the morning and the last, at bedtime. Have your private time with Him—where you lay everything at His feet and ask that His will be done in your life. Pray as a family, as well. This is extremely important. Your children look to you as their example, so be sure to set a Godly one.
Find daily time to NOT only communicate with God, but to also read His Word. Read one verse at a time. If you don’t understand it, then do some research, either on your own, or online. You have so many resources at your disposal. Having a concordance handy, will greatly help, as well.
Write your household priorities down: things that are absolutely necessary to do; those that are not; and anything else that you may be unsure about; but try to do it through God’s viewpoint. Be honest with yourself.
Get rid of the clutter, that you know that you can do without. Don’t think of it twice. Just do it!
Limit yourself to social media. Take the phone with you, if you must, in case of an emergency; but be sure to not answer, text or go online, while you’re driving of course, or in the presence of others unless it’s an emergency.
Spend quality time with friends and family, by conversing with them; sharing stories; playing games, and getting to know one another better. Ask questions. Be honest.
In doing the aforementioned, you will come to the realization that a lot of things that we deemed important at the moment, truly will be forgotten tomorrow. Our relationship with God, family, and loved ones are what we should cherish today. All those other things simply distract us from what is truly important in life.