God’s Plan for Your Marriage
Marriage is a covenant that is made between a man and woman and their Creator, when they choose to live as one, for all eternity. Unfortunately, in this day and age, 50% of marriages end in divorce, resulting in broken lives and utter heartache. No one intends on ever divorcing, on the day that they say their vows to one another; but unfortunately, sometimes people give into life’s circumstances and decide to make a decision that will ultimately impact themselves and their loved one. It is especially difficult when children are caught in the middle of their parents’ decisions, leaving them confused and brokenhearted.
God’s will is for couples to remain married forever, for they are no longer considered two beings, but one.
So, when a couple finds themselves filled with disappointment, confusion, heartache and despair, the only remedy to their circumstances is to seek the Word of God; but regardless of your life’s present course, His Word has a myriad of encouraging scriptures to maintain your blissful married life or to mend that which seemingly is broken. If marriage is something that you envision for your future, seeking His will for it now, will only benefit you in the long run. They keys to life’s joy for all things, is found in His book of love for you and for me.
God’s Will is for You to Remain as One, for All Eternity
Matthew 19:6 (KJV)
6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
In this scripture, God makes it very clear that a couple no longer remains as two separate beings, but becomes one, when a covenant is made between them. It is in fact a possibility for it to always remain, if both parties have a genuine understanding of what is needed to attain it. Stay focused on God firmly, without wavering, ever.
Love One Another Always, as You Did, When You First Were Courting
Ecclesiastes 9:9 (KJV)
9 Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.
Sometimes life is filled with trials that one can never fathom and therefore, when we take our focus away from God’s will for our life, we find that those responsibilities tend to take away from our inner joy, which results in the breaking of communication with our spouses and our children. So, if you find yourself taken in more by your emotions for life’s circumstances, than you do by your family, then allow yourself to focus more on mending your marriage before it breaks.
Love, respect, trust and communication are keys to a loving relationship, for without one or the other, there is bound to be issues that arise. So, compliment your spouse for the little things, spontaneously, never forgetting to be grateful for all that they do. Surprise them with a token of that appreciation, by creating a card with a loving note; picking wild flowers; spending one on one time with them, without the interference of social media or phones. There was a time, not too long ago, where we lived without phones and spent much needed time with our loved ones, believe it or not! Go out on a walk, while conversing about nothing but one another. Watch the starry night, while listening to your favorite music. Focus on learning more and more about one another’s interest and make it a priority, continuously. If you STAY in love with your partner, you will NEVER fall out of love with them, for it will be an impossibility.
Never, Ever, Retire for the Night, Without Making Amends with Your Spouse
Ephesians 4:26 (KJV)
26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Ephesians 4:32 (KJV)
32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
It is truly imperative that no matter what may have led to a misunderstanding between you and your spouse that you NEVER go to bed upset and especially angry. Be willing to forgive your loved one, even if in your heart and mind, you feel that you were wronged. If you have to be the one that approaches them in order to make amends, then that is what needs to be done. Remember, your ultimate goal should be the success of your marriage, so in focusing on that, humbling yourself always, will bring it to fruition.
If God is Your Focus, then All Things Will Fall into Place
Proverbs 3:5-6 (KJV)
5 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Psalm 127:1 (KJV)
127 Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.
Matthew 26:41 (KJV)
41 Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.
Remember to always keep God as your priority in life, because when you do, no matter what life’s circumstances come your way, remembering what His will is for your life, always, will benefit you, in moments of confusion or despair. Seek Him out whenever things become unclear, recognizing that through Him, you will in fact, overcome anything…always! Pray fervently as individuals and as a couple. You need to be the example for your children. If they experience a daily prayer with you and your spouse, then you are teaching them that a foundation with the Creator of the universe is your priority, and isn’t that the kind of legacy that you would like to leave your descendants? His Word is the key to ALL of life’s aspirations. Nothing is impossible to accomplish when you set your mind to live a Godly one, with Him and through Him!
Divorce will NEVER be an Option
Matthew 19:9 (KJV)
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Romans 7:2 (KJV)
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
1 Corinthians 7:5 (KJV)
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
Make it a priority to work on fulfilling your obligations to your spouse and your children. Always, stay focused on loving them, despite what trials may come your way. Decide, since day one of your nuptials, that divorce will never be an option. That both you and your partner will do anything and everything necessary in order to attain a victorious and fruitful marriage. Don’t ever seek counsel outside of God’s Word. Sometimes, we have a tendency to share things with friends and become more confused, for their methods may be that of God’s. Seek God through fervent prayer, in correlation with His Word, and you will find that your commitment to see your marriage through, will not be difficult to attain!